Does Love Make You Powerless?

"Love is a deep creative force that is based upon duty and obligation." - Louis Farrakhan

I didn't understand what this meant until I got married. Real love and marriage literally forces us to change and become a better person. To force a change in something does not mean you would have to become an oppressor. Force means mental or moral strength or power. True love gives one the power to conquer their weakness and turn them into strengths. When you really love someone, and you see that something you are doing is hindering their growth, development or happiness in any way, you being to sincerely desire to change that particular behavior. For example, in the beginning of my husband and I's relationship, I did not know how to express my emotions and because of that I just did not express how I felt at all. This caused stress for the both of us. Ultimately, it prevented our relationship from growing. It is just like the relationship between the sun and plants. When the rays of the sun are able to communicate with the plants, they are able to develop. If that line of communication is interrupted, growth will cease. Love pushes us past the limits we set for ourselves.

Love is a verb. It requires one to ACT on their duty to their partner. You can’t claim you love someone and neglect to SHOW them that you love them. What if God treated us that way? What if we did everything right but He never blessed us, never gave us the strength when we needed it, and was never there when we called on Him. What would we think about that type of God? God is Love. He acts on His Love for us but God doesn’t just let us say we love Him. He’s going to make us prove it.

Love doesn’t make us powerless. It is the person who we choose to share our space with that can make us powerless, if we allow it. But, we can also make ourselves powerless by not learning, practicing and growing into a man or woman of God. This is something that happens before you get married. Prepare yourself for what you prayed for. If you are praying for a good man or good woman, start with yourself first. Then God will bring someone into your life that will assist you on your journey, and vice versa.

But it starts with God, Dr. Ava Muhammad said it best, "Real love is God's Gift of Life...If you love God with all your heart, what is left for your partner? Some of the Essence of God is in your spouse, so you cannot love God without loving your spouse. The heart is a divinely constructed instrument into which God can speak to you and from which He can hear your thoughts. Love is power in and of itself, so if you pour your unique energy into it, it will yield amazing results. The creative force that is Love is forever seeking to ease the tension that life in this dimension has imposed upon us. It desires to return to its original state of rest. For you and I, that is the inner state of peace that can only be attained through the knowledge of God and the light of understanding."